Bereavement
The Lazear-Smith & Vander Plaat Memorial Home has compiled this list to aid you in locating a bereavement group. If you find that any of the information listed below is incorrect or if you know of a group that should be added to this list, please contact us.
National Grief Recovery Hotline
Monday - Friday 9am-5pm800-445-4808
Hotline for people who have lost loved ones that offers grief counseling over the phone, seminars and outreach programs.
Infant Death
SIDS Alliance800-221-7437
General Bereavement Group
Meets 1st Wednesday of the Month, weather permitting.7-8:30 p.m. in the Hospitality Room, St. Stephens RC Church
75 Sanfordville Rd, Warwick
Contact: Judy Battista 845-987-4207
Warwick United Methodist Church meets 3rd Tuesday of each month at 7:00pm at the church.
845-986-1030
MADD
Victims/Survivors of a drunk-driving crash1-877-MADD-HELP
Counselors available to help survivors survive.
MADD
Victims/Survivors of a drunk-driving crash1-877-MADD-HELP
Counselors available to help survivors survive.
Hospice of Orange & Sullivan Counties, Inc.
For bereavement services call:(Emergency) - 845-561-6111
(Non-Emergency) - 845-565-4849
The Children's Grieving Center: call 845-561-6111
Sharing & Caring Support Group
For families who have experienced the loss of a baby through miscarriage, stillbirth or neonatal deathContact St. Anthony's Community Hospital
845-987-5300
Meets first Wednesday of each month @7:30 pm
Our Library
In honor of Robert N.Smith, a library has been created in the funeral home, which includes many books covering a wide array of topics on the death of loved ones and the grieving process. We have sections on the loss of a child,suicide, death of a parent, death of a spouse, and dealing with grief. We encourage visitors to browse through the books and borrow any that would be of interest.
Book Name | Author |
A Time to Grieve | Carol Staudacher |
A Decembered Grief | Harold Smith |
After Good-bye | Lynette Freisen |
ABC’s of Healthy Grieving | Harold Smith |
A Grace Disguised | Jerry Sittser |
Adventures of a Clay Pot | Richard Ryley |
After the Darkest Hour | Elizabeth Mehren |
After the Death of a Child | Ann Finkbiner |
A Piece of My Heart | Molly Fumie |
Always Too Soon | Allison Gilbert |
A Grief Observed | C. S. Lewis |
Awakening from Grief | John E. Welshons |
Be Not Afraid (3) | Johann C. Arnold |
Creating Meaningful Funeral Experiences | Alan D. Wolfelt |
Companion Through the Darkness | Stephanie Ericcson |
Dying We Live | Edward S. Gleason |
Dancing in my Nightgown | Betty Auchard |
Dying to be Free | Beverly Cobain & Jean Larch |
Don’t Take My Grief Away from Me | Doug Manning |
Father Loss | Neil Chetnik |
Finding Your Way After a Spouse Dies | Marta Felber |
Grieving a Suicide | Albert Hsu |
Grief: Climb Toward Understanding | Phyllis Davies |
Grieving the Death of a Mother | Harold Smith |
God of the Valley | Steve Griffiths |
Guest of My Life | Elizabeth Watson |
Grieving: A Beginners Guide | Jerusha McCormack |
Grief’s Courageous Journey | Sandi Caplan & Gordon Lang |
Grief | Andrew Holleran |
Getting to the Other Side of Grief | Susan Zonnebelt-Smeenge |
Grieving Mindfully | Sameet M. Kumar |
He Giveth More Grace | Richard Ryley |
How to Handle Trouble | John Carmody |
How to Survive the Loss of a Child | Catherine Sanders |
Heading Through the Shadow of Loss | Deborah Coryell |
How to go on Living When Someone Dies | Therese A. Rendo |
Healing After the Suicide of a Loved One | Ann Sandin |
Healing After Loss(2) | Martha W. Hickman |
I’m Grieving as fast as I can | Linda Feinberg |
Lament for a Son | Nicholas Wolstersdorff |
Letting Go With Love | Nancy O’Connor |
Life After Loss(3) | Bob Deits |
Little Pieces of Light | Joyce Rupp |
Living When a Loved One Has Died | Earl A. Grollman |
Letters from Motherless Daughters | Hope Edelman |
Markings on the Window Sill | Ronald Greer |
My Beautiful Sand Castle Moment | Carol H. Adams |
Our Walk with Elephants | Peggy Boone |
Remember with Love | Elizabeth Levang |
Safe Passage | Molly Fumia |
Turning My Mourning into Dancing(2) | Henry Nouwen |
Traveling Through Grief | Susan Zonnebelt-Smeenge |
To Henry in Heaven | Herbert Brokering |
The Worst Loss | Barbara Rosof |
The Empty Room | Elizabeth DeVita-Raeburn |
The Gift of Memory | Marianne Richmond |
The Courage to Grieve | Judy Tatelbaum |
The Empty Chair | Susan Zonnebelt-Smeenge |
The 36 Hour Day | Nancy L. Mace |
This Thing Called Grief | Thomas Ellis |
Transcending Loss | Ashley D. Prend |
Through a Season of Grief | Bill Dunn & Kathy Leonard |
The Healing Power of Grief | G. Lintermanns & M. Stolzmann |
The Dancing Ground | Richard Ryley |
You Are Not Alone (4) | Lynn Hughes |
Until We Meet Again | Guideposts |
Understanding Your Grief | Alan Wolfelt |
Understanding the Emotional & Physical Eff | Brook Noel |
Up from Grief | Bernadine Kreis |
When Your Child Dies | Theresa Huntley |
When You Don’t Know What to Say | Harold Smith |
When Your Parent Dies | Ron Klug |
When Parents Die | Edward Myers |
When People Grieve | Paula D’Arcy |
When We Hurt | Philip Yancey |
When a Loved One Dies | Philip Williams |
When Your Baby Dies | Louis Gamino |
When Your Spouse Dies | Cathleen Curry |
When We Remember | Melissa Abraham |
Winter Grief-Summer Grief | James E. Miller |
Winter’s Gift | Jane Donovan |
Widow to Widow | Genevieve Ginsburg |
When Families Grieve | Sesame Street |
Will the Circle be Unbroken | Studs Terkel |
When Children Grieve | John James & Russell Friedman |
Carenotes
Please contact us to request a booklet.
Dealing with the Deep Sorrow of Sudden Death
Finding Your Way After the Death of a Spouse
Giving Yourself Permission to Grieve
Healing Thoughts to Soothe a Grieving Heart
Making Sense of Your Life after a Loved One’s Death
Overcoming Loneliness After Loss
Taking Care of Yourself While Grieving
When Death Comes Unexpectedly to Someone You Love
What Everyone Should Know about the First Year of Grief
For Children and Teens
Grieving When you Lose Someone CloseWhen a Classmate Dies
When Your Parent Dies
When Your Grandparent Dies
When Your Grandparent Dies – A Child’s Guide to Good Grief
Seasonal booklets
Making Lent a Season for Healing Your GriefGrieving at Christmas
Getting Through the Holidays When You’ve Lost a Loved One
Losing a Loved One Near the Holidays
Your First Christmas after a Loved One Dies
Links to organizations
Social Security Administration
Information on benefits from the Social Security Administration.www.ssa.gov
Department of Veterans Affairs
Department of Veterans Affairs Information on benefits available from the Veterans Administration.www.va.gov
Website Information
Today, most important information is accessed via the internet and funeral services are no different at www.LSVPMemorialHome.com. We have provided not only essential information that people request, such as funeral home address and direction information, but also an obituary page for each funeral service. This enables your family a secure place that will allow everyone to view the obituary information for their loved one, whose life we are honoring. Included are the service schedules and locations, as well as family members surviving the individual, and any special request, such as memorial donation information.
Additionally the obituary pages of our website provide a number of ways to communicate with families and to share memories with others. A private message can be sent to the family through a condolence card or a memory could be posted on the bottom of a person’s obituary page for all who visit to view. Photos and stories interwoven tell a story and can be shared by creating a memorial page for someone. Here is a separate place to create more extensive memories through photos and text with more options for the appearance which then can be viewed by everyone.
All postings to an obituary page are first sent to a family member for review. The family members name receiving these messages is provided on the page for that individual. Each family is given access to a private webpage for review and approval of all submitted information. After reviewing these postings the families can control the release of these messages to be added to the publicly viewable page
Online Obituaries
Obituary and death notices are public notices of the death of someone traditionally published in a newspaper. Newspapers have evolved into full obituaries in recent times, although some are still free, such as our weekly newspapers, The Advertiser and The Dispatch. Although most are now paid obituaries, some newspapers do offer a limited death notice at no cost.
Each notice is unique, although they often follow a format which readers have become accustomed to. We at Lazear-Smith & Vander Plaat Memorial Home will work with you to gather all the essential information, as well as discuss the different dimensions of biographical and personal information, such as a family statement. We will make every effort to create an obituary that is appropriate and unique for each person.
At the Lazear-Smith & Vander Plaat Memorial Home, we can facilitate placement of newspaper notices in almost any newspaper in the country. Each newspaper has its’ own policy about the cost, usually on a per line basis. Some still run free obituaries, but a newspaper notice can range from a hundred dollars to several hundred dollars, or even a thousand dollars in certain papers, depending on the newspaper. We can provide information and guidance regarding the individual newspaper charges and will help to give options about the different ways that we can handle these costs.
Because a notice in the newspaper is a public statement of the loss of a loved one, it can often become a cherished remembrance for a family. There are many important considerations about what is best for each family and it is our goal to advise you as to the ways a dignified, yet personal statement, can be composed.
A photograph can be included with an obituary in the newspaper or a symbol may be selected, such as an American flag. Consideration must be made that this may add more linage, adding to the cost.