Arlene O'Leary


Arlene OLeary of Warwick, NY passed away on December 21, 2020, at home, surrounded by her loving family.  She was 57 years old.


Born in Glen Cove, NY, on January 7, 1963, Arlene was the daughter of William and Grace (Sherwood) OLeary.


After graduating from Oyster Bay High School, Arlene earned her bachelors degree from Vassar and masters in social work from Harvard.  For over thirty years Arlene worked as an advocate for people with developmental disabilities at Lifespire Foundation in New York.


A wise and generous friend to many, Arlene was devoted to her beloved daughters and to her entire family.  Arlene’s passions included gardening and the natural world, baking, the seashore of Maine, as well as the works of John Updike, Monty Python, and Joni Mitchell.


Arlene is survived by daughters Meredith Cottle and Caroline Cottle of Warwick; mother Grace of East Norwich, NY; brother William OLeary and his wife Julie Kuehndorf of Laurel Hollow, NY;  brother Michael OLeary of Mathias, West Virginia; several nieces and nephews, and a multitude of friends.


Due to the COVID pandemic, a memorial service will be held in the spring when everyone can safely and comfortably gather outdoors.


In lieu of flowers, the family requests that donations be made to 


Arlene touched so many lives with her tremendous spirit and love for life.  She will remain forever in our hearts.

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